Flying by the Seat of Your Pants

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It isn’t always about the destination. I know, I’ve heard it all before about the whole destination and journey thingĀ but it’s moreĀ about the time on the road with nothing but the elements that surround you. The smells and temperature changes, the wind and sounds of your motorcycle and an occasional confused deer on the road. Both of us wondering which way to go.

Another trip to Sturgis South Dakota is behind me and I must admit, it was more about the ride there and back. It’s an opportunity to have some uninterrupted time to think about what is really going on up there. You know, justĀ below my thinning hair-line. Friends and family and where this life is taking me are always something to think about, but theĀ highway is always pointing me down this old road of life and it’s been doing a pretty good job so far. Looking back would I have taken any different roads along the way? Yes. Can I go back andĀ change directions now? No, but all I can do is be who I am and make the best of it all.

I’ve always been an optimistic guy and I approach life in a very easy-going manner. Road maps and flying by the seat of your pants are two different ways of getting to the same place,Ā but let’s face it;Ā it’s all in how you want to get there. Some of life’s best moments are the ones that came along unexpected.Ā Just asĀ a road map leaves no doubt on where you’re headed or where you’ve been, some unexpected turns and encounters along the wayĀ can make it all the more interesting. I don’t know what tomorrow will bring, but I do know that my outlook on life and how I handle those unexpected turns can determine how this trip through life will be. Don’t get hung up on the small stuff, and find the adventure in everything. It’s supposed to fun, right?

This trip to Sturgis put some things into perspective for me.Ā Rain is only water. Life is short soĀ hug your mom and dad. Tell those who mean something to you how you feel about them. Be nice – always. And more than all, appreciate those in your life and this beautiful, amazing world we live in. This road of life we travel, whether by motorcycle or not, isn’t always mapped out. It’s full of ups and downs and even has a few curves thrown in to keep you guessing, but that’s okay. We wouldn’t have it any other way.

 

The Spirit of Adventure – OUTLAND MOTO

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If you’re going to do it, it might as well be an adventure.

It’s not justĀ the travels on our motorcycles that makes ourĀ life an adventure. We can spend many hours in the saddle finding the picture perfect view that is camera worthy, or challenge ourselves to go places that only a few have gone. Sure, it’s likely we’re not the first one to pass down this road or trail, but it can always be my first time. I have found we motorcyclists can be up for any challenge put in front of us, and even if it’s uphill both ways I think we’ll be okay. As long as there is some good scenery.

But it’s not always the adventure of riding that fuels our passion. It can be all that surrounds our passionĀ which quicklyĀ becomes the challenge. We pour our heart and thoughts and emotionsĀ into what we love so much that it too can be quite the adventure. My good friend Jim Vota knows this all too well. While he and his crew at Outland Moto are passionate about the adventure side of motorcycling, they are also passionate about showing it to you. ToĀ channel the Spirit of Adventure and the dedication of something you love into a lifelong dream can only be a good thing. And it shows.

Look for amazing things to come from Outland Moto. Pictures, video, product reviews and so much more can be found atĀ Outland MotoĀ following the lifestyle of all ADV riders.Ā I know for Jim, this is just as exciting as any adventure he’s taken on a motorcycle. But I also know that he would rather be out on some rock strewn path taking him up towardsĀ a summit somewhere. And if you want to see the results of his life’s adventure, check out Outland Moto. Of course, he wants to see what kind of adventures you’re on, so share some of your favorite photos with them. After all, it’s about the community and the stories behind every moment we experience that makes it all come together.

ThanksĀ Jim, for all you do. And I look forward to seeing where your adventure takes you!

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A Stone’s Throw

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Yesterday I pulled overĀ on the shortĀ side-roadĀ next toĀ the Skiddy cemetery to help a large turtle cross into the ditch. With my new-found friend safeĀ from harmĀ and turtle pee on my boot,Ā I looked towards the southeastĀ atĀ the small town of White City off in the distance. I’ve seen this imageĀ many timesĀ as I come home this way every day. I laughedĀ to myselfĀ about the illusion the grain elevator and the water tower give ofĀ being so farĀ apart from each other, butĀ I knowĀ they are only about 3 blocks apart. It’s a small town, so what isn’t 3 blocks away?Ā I took a minute to think about a few things like the upcoming 4th of July celebration and how this week has always been one of my favorite times of the year. For a small town, White City has the ability to pull things togetherĀ by putting on a parade, ball games and fireworks all infused with that oldĀ magic ingredient called home.

I know White City isn’t the only community in which this happens, but it’s the one I live in so I can speak first hand about it. I also sat there for aĀ minute and thought about friends I haven’t seenĀ for a while. Once in a while a name or face pops into your head and you wonder what they’re doing now. From my vantage point at the cemetery the town seems so far away, but the fact is it’s only about 8 miles. Just like old friends, atĀ times they tooĀ seem likeĀ a distant memoryĀ but actually they’re not that far away. We can always pull a memory or two out of nowhere closing the gapĀ between time and distance,Ā and by scanning the horizon I know some of those friends are just a stone’s throw from town. Much like the illusion of the grainĀ elevator and water tower.

Now that social media has played such a large role in getting us all back in touch, it’s easier than ever to know what everyone’s up to. But, I will say there is nothing that beats lunch with a friend and the laughter that follows. We take so many things for granted when we’re young and reckless that we never saw the wave of life coming. Some caught that wave out of town while others hung onĀ tightly to the city’s edge. Neither being wrong or right, it’s just the way things ended up. We still have those friends whether or not our paths ever cross again. Of courseĀ it can never be too late.

We take so many things for granted when we’re young and reckless that we never saw the wave of life coming.

Who knew helping a turtle across the road would give me so much to think about? Was this his big break from the small ditch he grew up in to a bigger world where the pace is much faster and the grass is taller? Do turtles have a “fast pace?”Ā Was he returning back to a place where he grew up? Was this turtle a symbol of small town life? Crazy questions for a small town guy like me. I may never know the answers,Ā but it made me feel good to get him off the road.

After a few minutes of taking in the scenery, I fired up my Road King and headed into town. Another confused turtle saved from what might have been, and some memories of friends that will always be…friends.

Lost in Translation

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It’s nothing but words. Words of description, feelings and stories. They roll out of our mouths orĀ with pen and paper, and in some crazy, weird way they come together to say what we want to say. Right or wrong, intentional or with regret, they come out and all of a sudden the bell has rung. We can apologized, repeat and explain but justĀ as the “ayes” have it, the words have spoken.

This morning’s ride to work had me thinking about how the written and spoken word has changed. We no longer write long letters on paper placed in an envelope or stand in the kitchen talking on a phone with a 3 foot cord. Communication is instant these days and can often be misunderstood. As fast as our thoughts will allow our thumbs to type, a message is sent and then read to see if we actually sent what we meant to say. I’m not knocking this type of communication, I’m just trying to understand how we got here.

Before the instant message, we sat down to put our thoughts on paper. Each word and sentence thought out carefully and a lot of concentration was given to show the recipient that we had decent hand writing. When we were through with the letter we actually penned our name at the bottom with some sort of closing wishing them well or expressing our feelings. Done.Ā Fold it up, put it in the envelope and lick the seal. Now in a couple of days they will know exactly how I feel. Today, they know exactly how we feel –Ā RIGHT NOW.Ā If youĀ needed to talk to someone immediately, you picked up the phone, dialed their number (after looking it up in the phone book) only to be greeted with a “hello?” How archaic.

It’s amazing how IĀ can’t remember everĀ throwing away a letter. It’s almost as if itĀ was something to be cherished and kept to read again and again. I think we’ve lost something in translation –Ā but it’s not in the words we say or write. It’s in the amount of thought and effort we put into it. It’s hard to show how good my penmanship is in a text message. Who am I kidding –Ā I have no penmanship. The keyboard and mouse have taken over andĀ I can’t even find a pen. The phone calls are more convenient now and I don’t have to stand in the kitchen to talk, but now theyĀ come more frequently and the topics are less in-depth. It used to be when the phone rang we looked at each other to see who would get up to answer it. Now, we look to see who’s phone is ringing. We usually don’t pick up with a hello and hang up with a goodbye, and I’m a little sad about that.

So back to my ride in this morning. When I finally pulled into the parking lot at work and shut offĀ my bike, my phone rang. It was my dad calling to see if I had called him. You see, he doesn’t have caller ID on his phone so when he sees a missed call he calls everyone to find out who it was. Although he has an answering machine at home, he doesn’t have voicemail on his cell phone. We had a short visit, I told him I loved him and he said the same and we hung up. I thought about how I answered the phone and whether or not the traditional hello and goodbye was used. They were not. But I heard “I love you” before I hung up and that’s just as good in my book. That’s one thing not lost in translation.

In Search of Definition

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We can ride mile after mile searching for the meaning of those feelings we have every day. To say a motorcyclist is passionate about riding is one thing, but to explain it is another.Ā To find the true meaning behindĀ our passionĀ for riding motorcycles, one must first ride. Even then, it’s hard to put it into words. We know how this motorized wonder makes us feel therefore we should be able to say it out loud. Not so much. Much like inspiration, it comes from a place thatĀ involves clarity to understand. Something may inspire you but to put that inspiration into words can be difficult.Ā Clarity. Definition. Both are distinct and both we search for equally.

Ā If a picture is worth a thousand words,Ā my motorcycle is the photo album of my life. I flip through the pages of my album every time I roll down the highway, looking at this long road I call life from the best seat in the house.

But the search never seems to end. Every time I get on my bike I’m still looking for answers and explanations for the thoughts in my head. If a picture is worth a thousand words,Ā my motorcycle is the photo album of my life. I flip through the pages of my album every time I roll down the highway, looking at this long road I call life from the best seat in the house. And it never gets old. Even though every one of my senses is being affected while riding, I still find that being completely vulnerable to my surroundings is the only place I want to be atĀ any given moment – vulnerable to the elements andĀ myĀ emotionsĀ all at the same time. Of course, to enjoy the ride and the scenery around me is still possible, I also look inward to find things I’ve long since put away for another day. We’re all different when it comes to our photo albums, but the search is always the same. We are looking back toĀ getĀ that same warm and fuzzy sensationĀ that only memories canĀ provideĀ and weĀ enjoy how that makes us feel.

Some things are just meant to be felt not said.

We don’t need words or explanations for everything. Some things are just meant to be felt not said. The understanding isĀ present and I don’t need the definition to get it. To findĀ the beauty of the countrysideĀ by way ofĀ it,Ā doesn’t need to be explained, but rather appreciated. How it makes you feel is good enough for me, and that goes for all those other things I can’t explain. But that won’tĀ stop me from searching.

 

The Smell of Fear

 

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Sometimes you just don’t know. Sometimes we go through life doing our best, working hard to make a differenceĀ (not only in our lives but those around us) and we just don’t know if we are. It’s like a bad driverĀ careening out of controlĀ down the road unaware ofĀ the carnageĀ going on inĀ his rear-view mirror. Eyes focused on the road ahead, but completely oblivious to the damage done. Later, watching the evening news about a car driven by a reckless driver he says “wow, I drove right through there just before all that happened.”

I’m not saying I’m a bad driver. I’m talking about whether saying hello to someone while walking down the sidewalk, letting someone ahead of you in line or just listening to someone go on and on about the turmoil in their life actually makes a difference to them. Once the brief encounter is over and you both go your separate ways, was a difference made? Good? Bad? All I can do is be who I am and if the goal is to make a difference at that moment then I’ll know I did my best. I don’t know the back-story of everyone I come in contact with, but everyone has a story. Who am I to think I can completely understand their lifetime in just a few moments? Hell, I have a hard enough time understanding my own let alone someone else.

But it’s not about understanding where someone comes from or how their life differs from ours. It’s about the effort put forth to make a difference from this moment on. Listen. Smile. Hold out a hand or open a door. Making someone’s whole day might take justĀ a second of your time, so why wouldn’t we do that? Sounds easy, but are we too wrapped up in our own little world to see the worldĀ around us?Ā For whatever reason, perfect strangers will tell me just about anything. I’m not sure ifĀ I suffer from “Nice Guy Syndrome” or if it’s because I’m willing to engage in conversation. I’ve tried to understand what possesses someone to veer out of theĀ light conversation we were havingĀ into a much deeper subject.Ā At this point we might want to have a proper introduction. For reasons unknown to me, they feel it necessary to say what’s on their mind or what’s going on in their life.Ā It must be my great ability to listen, show the proper facial expressionsĀ and nod my head. Just as the old saying goes that bees smell fear, I think peopleĀ can just smellĀ I’m a good listener.

As we move about our daily routines, it’s only a matter of time that something we say or do (intentional or not) will have an impact onĀ someone around us. For those who know us, what we say or do won’t necessarily be a surprise. For everyone else we may never know. I wish it was as simple as watching the evening news to find out if the damageĀ behind meĀ was caused by yours truly. Although, I do check my mirrors regularly.

 

Waiting for the Perfect Day

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You want to know something? The grass is going toĀ need cuttingĀ no matter what. The wind is going to blow and at any given time it will be hot, cold, dark and a chance of rain. So what are you waiting for? It’s the sense of adventure – the taking of risks that gets your blood pumping, yet we make excuses. The whole idea of owning a motorcycle should be to ride it. You can wash it later – after the ride. You convinced yourself when you brought that damn thing home, you would ride it every day. What happen since those words were uttered?

We often have great intentions of riding when we finallyĀ convince ourselves to dive in. For those who ride their bikes as they were intended to, feel free to close this window and go for a ride. For those who brought their motorcycle home and parked it, waiting for that perfect day to get it out from behind the riding mower and those unused bicycles – listen up. What are you waiting for? If you need a reason, look in the mirror. Do you see that tired, frustrated and sometimes pissed off person looking back at you? The remedy is sitting out in the garage. Take the trash on your way outĀ and fire that bike up!

We work so hard trying to find a reasonĀ not to ride we forgot the whole reason we wanted to ride. What about all those adventures you told your friends you were going on? What about that feeling you had when you were picking it up to take it home? That feeling of excitement mixed with a little fear and a little attitude thrown in. It felt good, didn’t it? Where did all those feelings go –Ā out in the garage parked against the wall with your old dustyĀ coveralls laid over the handlebars? Don’t tell me it has a dead battery…

If you really want to ride, then do it. If you don’t, well that’s okay too. But before you decide to sell it, take it for a quick ride down the road and see how you feel about it then. Don’t do something you’ll regret later and who knows, maybe you’ll decide to give it another shot. Live on the edge and ride. Somewhere deep down inside was a little voice that told you to buy a motorcycle, and you listened. That same voice has been telling you to ride it, so what are you waiting for?

My Folks and Fried Chicken

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If you look hard enough, a bright spot will appear in your day. On a cloudy, wet, coolĀ day here at the motorcycle shop, my folks stopped in to say hello. Both in their eighties and slow to get around, they came to town to pick up a few things. Mom doesn’t always get out of the car at every stopĀ as it can be difficult at times, but today was an exception. Dad is great when it comes to helping her around and for meĀ it’s not hard to find a moment to stop and sit down whileĀ at work and visit with them even if its only for a few minutes. Even though they live aboutĀ 8 blocks from me, it’s always good to see them, and it’s nice to know they want to stop and see me while they are in town.Ā The conversations aren’t usually too deep; it’s mostly about the how everyone is doing and the buzz around the community or where the gas prices are the highest. Dad will let me know where and when I should buy gas to save a penny or two and as crazy as it seems –Ā I do it. After all, a penny is a penny.

This particular trip to town, my dad picked up some fried chicken at the local full service grocery store, andĀ my mother was looking forward to getting home and having dinner. She’s very petiteĀ but a pretty good eater so dad felt like he couldn’t leave her alone in the car with the fried chicken. AlthoughĀ the chickenĀ was safe in the back seat, he thought it better to bring her in. It’s always great to see them and listen to the banter they have going back and forth. It shows me that after all these years they both still have a great sense of humor. I can only hope to have the ability to laugh at myself at their age.

My folks are always amazed at the motorcycles on the showroom floor. We talk about how much they cost and who in the world would pay that much for something like that. They are always impressed by how beautiful they are and as I have riddenĀ motorcycles for the last 40 years – my mom and dad have never ridden. Pretty amazing. While we were visiting, just five feet away from usĀ sat a 2014 Harley-Davidson trike. Dad looked at mom and without any hesitation said “if I were to get one it would be this, and I wouldn’t let you eat fried chicken on it.” Like any new vehicle ever purchased, I guess there are always rules for drinks and food.

I love my folks. My mother is a dear and as in any conversation, she has a hard time keeping up. But if you listen real close to what she has to say, it will make you smile. I love my dad as well. I am lucky to be graced with his looks and I wish I had half the talent he has with a hammer. Good people and awesome parents. When I see them together I consider myself lucky to be their son.

Running Out of Rain

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If you could have heard the song playing in my helmet on my rainy ride to work this morning, it would have sounded like a broken record skipping along repeating the same verse over and over. All too often we bikers get something stuck in that helmet of oursĀ and it takes miles to shake it loose. I know it’s not that unusual to be riding down the road taking in the sites and humming a tune, but do we always get to pick the tune? Is there some deeper reason a lyric or song gets stuck in our head? TheĀ song stuck in my head this morning was Gary Allan’s “Every Storm,” and not just because I was riding into the rain. But when you think about it, every stormĀ will run out of rain. Just not soon enough for a biker.

Being the avid motorcyclist, I’m always prepared for days like this,Ā and when the weatherman talks percentages for rain, he really should mention the odds. LikeĀ your odds ofĀ rain in comparison to not having a rain suit with you.Ā Your odds of ever seeing rain go down considerablyĀ after investing in a quality rain suit. Much like the odds of running out of gas near a gas station. This willĀ always happen at the furthest point from civilization asĀ possible.

Just like every song you hear, there are deeper meanings involved. It’s always up to the listener how words will be translated and how it will apply to you specifically, andĀ to meĀ this song is all about how vulnerable we are in this world and as life sets you back, it’s a matter of holding your head up knowing thereĀ areĀ better days ahead.Ā We can’t live our life waiting for the weather to get better; instead, we must go out in whatever weather is surrounding us and push through it. Some days it feels like you can’t win as the storm rages around you, but this storm, like the storms before it, will end and the sun will come out again. Very important words for a guy who rides a motorcycle.

As random as the weather can be, we can also be surprised by the winds of change as our livesĀ take turnsĀ unexpectedly. We should always know this is temporary and even if there is damage and destruction surrounding us after the storm we will see the sun again. We don’t forget, we just move past. The lyric that stands out to me in this song is how we all have thorns. Below the surface of somethingĀ as beautiful asĀ the rose, you may experience a little pain. We all experience aĀ few thornsĀ over the course of our lifetime, but it’s the beauty of the rose we remember – not the pain of a thorn or two.

I’m a fan of GaryĀ Allan.Ā From the surface his music is a little dark and for good reason. To know whereĀ this darknessĀ comes from is importantĀ to understand the emotion which comes through in every word he sings. And with that I was humming along with the words silently being sung in my head. I don’t mind riding in the rain as some of my most memorable rides happened on days just like this. I wonder what song will be playing in my head on the ride home…

 

Greener Grass

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It’s easy to find that old road home. Sometimes it can beĀ automatic and effortless findingĀ your way hereĀ and other timesĀ itĀ can be aĀ road no one wantsĀ to travel.Ā Why is it easy to find the road home when the road out-of-townĀ is so difficult to locate? It can’t be thoseĀ roots around your feet holdingĀ you down as soĀ many before youĀ have proven it possible to cut loose and make a run for it. Look around – there are plenty of family and friends who have broken free and found the escape route from their hometowns to find greener and brighter places to reside. ThereĀ must beĀ a brick for every one of those who left, making upĀ the cobblestoneĀ four blocks of our main street. Countless bricks – aĀ quiet reminder that it is possible to call somewhere else home.

Why is it easy to find the road home when the road out-of-townĀ is so difficult to locate?

Not everyone wants to stay behind. The quiet of a small town can make your ears bleed, and it’s often the invisible expectations we place upon ourselvesĀ which keep the porch light on at night. Is it a fear of the unknown or the lack of confidence in myself that keeps me here? Is the grass under my feet greener than that which grows down the road? Or is it me that makes the grass greener wherever I’m standing… Great questions with answers yet to be determined.

I know for some it’s a race to getĀ beyond the railroad tracks. Life begins when the cake is cut at the high school after-graduation party, and then it’s off to who knows where to start who knows what. We’re young and excited and we want to see what we’re capable of. We want to make our markĀ in this world and this small town is standing in our way! TheĀ grip of any one-horse town is no match toĀ college, workĀ and distant dreams and besides, who’s going to notice when I’m gone?

We go about our business of living while planting our own rootsĀ so theĀ family we raiseĀ has a place toĀ call home. We water the grass to keep it green thinking that’s all it takes to keep them here, only toĀ have themĀ hatch the same escape plan we had when it’s time to leave the nest. Some leave the small town life and come back whileĀ others leave and never look back.Ā There are those thatĀ never leaveĀ but always wish they hadĀ and there are a few that are completely contentĀ to living their life on gravel. There is a reason the end of the rainbow is alwaysĀ off in the distance. That elusive pot of gold which lies at the other endĀ is actually our family and friends who have had the courage to moveĀ away. But remember, there are always two ends to a rainbow, even though you may not always see it. Does that mean there are two pots of gold?

So whetherĀ youĀ are running from your past, chasing fame andĀ fortune or love, one thing is for sure – you will either be leaving the comfort of your hometown in your pursuits or you will be coming back to a porch light left on. The direction you travel is dependent upon where your grass was planted or whereĀ this rainbow ends.